Monday, January 27, 2014

Sit Down and Listen Up!

As a teen, I yearned to be one of those quiet artsy girls, adorned in glasses, face buried in a book, but I was the type that would read behind doors, through the night, so I could spend my days yapping everyone's ears off. Being outspoken and strong was a really powerful thing for me, as a teenager. I needed to speak up for myself when I felt that no one else would. Now that I'm an adult, I'm only slightly quieter, and I'm convinced it's because I think for an extra couple seconds before I open my mouth. (Although, I still end up eating my foot every once and a while.)

Learning when to sit down and listen is one of the hardest things to teach yourself. I've lived most of my life being a hard assed, loud, opinionated lady, but one thing feminism has taught me is that I can't ALWAYS have a voice. There are some plights I do not live through, some oppressions seem invisible through my privilege, and sometimes it's best for me to shut the hell up. 2014 is the year I'm going to shut up and listen. Of course, I'm going to still fight for the things I believe in, but I'm learning to not talk over voices that are more important, and need to be heard more than my own. As with all lessons, it will take time and effort. I'll probably make some mistakes. I'm vowing to myself to learn from each mistake.

With that, this outfit is completely inspired by other people. The #Fatshion tag on Tumblr convinced me to buy this dress because all these fierce fatties looked so good in it, I had to join in. Thick heels inspired by one of my favorite bloggers, Ms. Zerostyle. Leather jacket inspired by BeyoncĂ©, because she wore a very similar one on her visit to Walmart. 

I've done it. I've found the perfect leather jacket, and it looks like Beyoncé's. Yes, I mentioned that twice because I'm so proud of it.

Jacket - ASOS
Dress - ASOS
Leggings - Walmart
Shoes - DSW

Bomb ass gold necklace - Fashion to Figure

xoxo ur imaginary gurlie fr1end

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Dear Diary

I came ridiculously close to being employed this week. Two interviews, six written articles, and a week of "you're the most talented applicant thus far" later, my writing voice was "too young" for the conservative marketing company. The most disappointing fact of the whole process was that I knew this potential employer was going to put me through the ringer. Sometimes you have to stick things out, regardless of the inevitable outcome, just for the experience. Damn, do I feel experienced. 
Luckily, the same morning I wasn't offered this job, I was named #11 on Buzzfeed's "18 Body Positive Bloggers You Should Be Following." Being named on that list, along with some fellow amazing bloggers, reminded me that even if I'm not the right fit for one job, I'm definitely working towards a larger goal. Bitchtopia is my number one project at the moment, and it's definitely worth the time!

I got inspired to wear a crop top today because of #skorchcropshot #skorch #skorchmag #skorchmagazine. Yes, all those tags are necessary. 

Top - Thrifted
Pink Skirt - Target
Double Sided Tights - SPANX
Scarf - Borrowed from Christian because BRRRR
Velvet Combat Boots - Doc Martens 

My friend and photographer, Christian, took some really interesting, fantastic photos. We were so cold, and kept switching jackets, but we made it werk. 

My lipstick is Beth Ditto for MAC: Dear Diary

THIS AMAZING PIZZA RING was another gift given to me by TheFattestFox, formally BeccaBae.